What should You Not Do During Separation?

Disputes or quarrels tend to happen most of the time, and it’s ruining your relationship. Thus, you will only reach consensus if you think that it’s time to end your relationship and call for a separation.

But not all have fulfilling separations. There are couples who end up in more serious disputes. But if you don’t want to end up like those couples, then here are the things which you should not do during a separation.

First, what to do.

If there are children, don’t just move out. Consult a lawyer. While it is rare for desertion to be a real issue in a divorce trial, moving out without a plan or an agreement can have a very bad impact on your ability to parent your children. the impact can last a lifetime.

Don’t Deny your Partner some Time with your Kids

Separation is hard for your kids and hard for parents. But kids will have it harder because they will blame themselves for the separation. If the children are with you, give your ex-partner the right to spend time with the kids. Besides, the children missed their father or mother that much. So, never deny your partner some time to bond with the kids.

Never Rush into a New Relationship

If you and your ex have just separated, then it’s just and right to not rush into a new relationship. You still have emotional baggage weighing you down, and rushing into a new one maybe not a good idea. Give yourself some time to heal. This action is also a sign of respect to your ex-partner and to yourself. Give your time to your kids or something worthwhile, which can help you to heal completely. Important: While most judges do not care about post-separation relations with another, most judges will be unhappy with intruding your children to your new relationship prematurely. When you are ready to introduce the children to your new relationship, discuss it with your former partner—they will hear abut from the kids anyway.

Never Publicize your Separation

So, stay away from your social media account and keep it to yourselves. Obviously, family and friends may need to know you are separated. Every post on social media, every photograph, every video and every email and text is evidence that you will have to give the other side in litigation.

Never Badmouth your Ex

Partner or ex-partner, you should never badmouth him/her. Especially in front of the kids. Never use the situation to gain the trust of the kids by badmouthing your ex-partner. Doing this means you’ll be dragging them into the separation issue, talk to them, and reassure them that all will be okay.

Ending it With Bad Blood

Separation means that you’ve already reached consensus about parting ways. So why should you end the relationship with issues regarding your partner, and ex-partner? You should resolve the issues with your partner and apologize to each other, clearing all the bad blood that had been brewing over the decade of your relationship. End it harmoniously and with peace. Lawyers and judge usually see the case where people cannot agree. But most of us are decent people who can get past the great pain of a separation.

Separation is hard. But what makes it complicated can be the actions done by you or your ex-partner. Can’t you just end it with a clear and peaceful mind? Take note of the five things you should avoid during separation. Both of you may have ended the marriage or relationship, but each of you should still give respect. For the benefit of your kids and your lives too.


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